Do One Thing Different: Ten Simple Ways to Change Your Life
You can move quickly from “stuck” to “smooth sailing” in all aspects of your life using Bill O’Hanlon’s ten easy Solution Keys, Humorous, direct, and effective, they help you change how you view and “do” your problems-from difficult relationships to enhancing sexuality and resolving conflicts of all kinds. The next time you have a problem, try one of these solution Keys: Break Problem Patter: Change any one of what you usually do in the problem situation-i.e. do one thing different! Example: If you usually get angry and defensive, sit quietly and listen.
The theory behind the title of this book is solution-oriented therapy. Rather than probing the past and analyzing causes and effects of psychological problems and troubles, therapist O’Hanlon advises making changes in behavior in the present in order to feel better sooner rather than later. Using 10 “solution keys,” he challenges readers to focus on the here and now and adjust behavior to change the situation. The author uses plenty of examples to show solution-oriented therapy in action. There is something to be said for taking action in times of trouble rather than wallowing in the many negative feelings that arise.
Find and Use Solution Pattern: Import solutions from other situations where you felt competent. Examples: what do you know on the golf course that you forget when you get behind the wheel of your car? What do you say to resolve a problem with an angry customer that you don’t say to your angry partner?
Shift Your Attention: Focus what you would like to have happen rather than on what is happening.
Grounded in therapeutic practice, this bold and funny book will put you back in control of your emotions and your life.
Softcover, 224 pages.