If you Google the phrase “transform your life,” you get results showing you how to do just that in 5 easy ways, in less than 30 minutes, with 10 technologies, by 10 truths, or in 21 days. Just to name a few.
With so many methods being touted, it seems reasonable to surmise that there are quite a few people in the world who are unhappy or dissatisfied with some aspect of their lives. Relatively quick gratification or an easy fix seems to be the order of the day in the area of marketing the promise of life-transforming information.
For those who are looking for lasting life change and are willing to devote what may be a great deal of emotional energy to it, Transform Your Life Now will guide you through that process. The author suggests that various core emotional issues that may have taken hold in childhood could be responsible for some of adulthood’s challenges. With over 30 years of experience as a psychotherapist, Andrea J. Moses, M.S.W., is “dedicated to empowering people to make dramatic life changes,” and this book, her fourth, is continuing testament to that dedication.
Written in three parts – The Invisible Truth, Pulling Back the Curtains, and Transforming Your Life – Moses wastes no time in pointing out that you will have experienced many negative emotions as a child if you were treated in a less than loving way by either of your parents. Experiences of anger, fear, shame, self-blame, self-hatred, or grief as a result of their being critical, judgmental, degrading, rejecting, or emotionally unavailable “will be as alive within your subconscious mind as if they happened yesterday.”
Many examples are provided throughout the book of individuals who were mistreated as children and have faced challenges as adults, some of which may ring true for certain readers. Moses is careful to be supportive and encouraging to those whose negative childhood experiences may surface while reading these stories as well as other possible situations presented illustratively.
Those who can relate to the theory that many challenges stem from the treatment they received in childhood may find the second part of the book to be where they really start to zero in on the emotions and challenges they are currently facing. Beginning in the chapter “Longing for Love,” and reiterated throughout the book, Moses relates how the parent(s) of a person who was mistreated as a child were simply reversing the role of victim that they experienced as a child themselves. One very descriptive statement she writes is “…emotionally wounded parents create emotionally wounded children – empty transmutes to empty.”
Moses developed a process called The Healing Dialogue over six years. It incorporates everything you will learn in Transform Your Life Now. She states that this method is “consistently effective in opening up the inner communication between the conscious and subconscious mind so that healing can take place.”
Within The Healing Dialogue, you will be asked to identify your core emotional issues, deprogram, and question your erroneous beliefs – those that were formed in childhood by your misinterpretation of the facts and from unmet survival needs. You also will be asked to accept the challenge of letting go of the past, to heal your inner child, to forgive, to take back your power, and to align with love by connecting to your inner Self-Love and the “Universal Love Energy” surrounding you.
One aspect of the book that I found to be a bit awkward, from a reader’s perspective at least, was the frequent use of he/she, her/his, s/he, etc. A shining example is, “But if I fix her/his problems and help her/him out, then s/he will be free to love me.” While the message is delivered, it may interrupt the pace at which you normally read. In fact, I found myself having to re-read portions because of it.
“The source of most problems you will have in your adult life will stem back to your unresolved negative feelings about experiences you will have had as a child.” If you disagree with that viewpoint, you may have difficulty getting through the book. Indeed, unless you read the first page of the first chapter before you purchase it, you will have no clue to the transformation method within its pages. The title or back cover of the book gives no hint of the it-all-started-in-your-childhood point of view. However, if you are in agreement that many of our issues as adults do indeed have their roots in childhood, then Transform Your Life Now will be a godsend in addressing them so that you can be “Who You Truly Are.”
Transform Your Life Now
By Andrea J. Moses, MSW
Powerbase Media: June 14, 2011
Paperback, 254 pages